Life is one big learning experience, sometimes things aren’t meant to be. People who have been together their entire adult lives can end-up breaking it off, to the surprise of their friends and family members. You can try to fix things, but sometimes it is inevitable or you’ve reached a boiling-point where there it isn’t worth saving. Let’s take a look at the most common reasons marriages don’t work. If you want to stop divorce from happening in your marriage, then you need to make sure none of this happens to you.
Lack of Communication
This should easily be the number one reason that marriages end in divorce. Couples will argue and fuss over things, which is only natural, however, if you argue over every little detail of each other’s lives, it’s not going to be good for the health of the marriage. There are some old couples who can someone still manage to stay together while constantly bickering for decades, but that is definitely the exception and not the norm. There has to be a point of resolve to keep the lines of communication open and respect towards each other to prevent a self-destructive marriage from happening.
If communication problems is the number one cause, infidelity has to be the number two cause of divorce. It’s a common joke among married couples about how after you get married, the sex life is over and the ball and chain is put on. Well, it’s actually not that funny, when you look at how common it is for cheating to split marriages. Men and women have needs and if they’re not getting them fulfilled at home, they will eventually find it somewhere else. Something as basic as reviving a healthy sex life can salvage an entire marriage.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, many marriages are so devoid of love, they dwell in the dark crevices of abuse. Something is very wrong when you no longer feel safe in your own home, with someone who decided to spend the rest of your life in. You don’t truly know this person anymore if they resort to physical or mental abuse for whatever reason or excuse they may have for it. This is often a problem that you can never fix as the receiver of the abuse and it is best to leave the relationship and seek professional help.
A Realization That Monogamy isn’t for you
This might be a foreign concept to some, but monogamy isn’t actually a normal or even a common sight in Mother Nature. Most do not mate for life, it doesn’t mean that they cannot love, it just means they can’t stay stationary and live a life set in stone. Some people need that structure and definition in life, while others feel claustrophobic and have higher levels of anxiety in a marriage.
A Lack of Problem Solving Skills
Marriages can fall apart if adversity presents itself and you and your spouse are not prepared to cope with it. Whether it is financial problems, health problems, or possibly family problems, these are all things that can put stress on the relationship and may cause a couple to ask themselves if they feel they would be better off working autonomous, rather than together.